When You Rephrase Reality You Gain Exciting Opportunities


Rephrase © Erik Back 2012

Your phrasing habits make your reality. The words you use and the way you put them together form your perception of reality.

If you have a habit of applying negative words to all your sentences then your reality will be negative. The wind ruins your haircut; the rain wets your car; the dog next door keeps you awake and the sales assistant frowns upon your choice of style.

Choosing words that support your dreams and goals will attract people that can relate to what you say because they share your view of reality.

In the examples above you will attract self-centered people who focus on negative aspects of life. How will they help you reach your life goals? – They won’t!

Share realities

Imagine that all people have a pair of glasses; each pair of glasses are different so, reality looks different depending on the glasses you see through.

When you exchange glasses with someone, you see how this person’s reality looks like and to combine the two realities you adjust both pair of glasses to represent a reality you both agree on.

To exchange glasses you have to listen to the other person and tell about your own reality.

1. Listen to other people’s points of view; it is most likely that they don’t see reality the way you do. If you listen to people you will understand their reality and you can combine it with your own reality.

2. Tell your stories, but mind inappropriate phrasing. Pay attention to the words you choose and how they help convey your perception of reality. It is possible that you have to change some phrasing habits.

When you share or combine two or more perceptions of realities then a new one will emerge. That reality will be filled with new and exciting opportunities waiting to be explored. These opportunities will clear the way to your dreams and goals.

Are You Conscious About Your Habits?

As usual I was up at 6.26 and drinking my glass of water. While eating my breakfast it was snowing in the dark outside my window. I like the snow; it makes me feel peaceful. Everything becomes quiet and stress-less. My mind started to think about my perception and consciousness and I decided to take a look at YouTube to explore what other people say about consciousness.

I found this program made by BBC, “BBC Horizon – The Secret You”, that attempts to measure consciousness. The program discovers that you get your sense of self-recognition at the age of 18 – 24 months. This is the age where you become aware that you exist. It turns out that only humans, chimpanzees and orangutans have the ability to recognise them-selves and to be aware of their own existence.

Apparently the sense of “I” is connected to the conscious mind but separated from the body. This means that body and mind are separated in some sense. You will see experiments of this in the program. But the mind and body is interconnected by the subconscious mind and you will see proof that the subconscious mind is aware of what you are going to do six seconds before you are conscious about it.

This is interesting when working with habits because a habit is something you do without thinking about it. This means that a great deal of that habit is turned over to the subconscious part of your brain. You can use your self-consciousness to program your sub consciousness and thereby control you behavioural patterns and perception of the world.

If you would like to study the philosophical aspects then I recommend that you take a look at René Descartes’ theory about dualism – the separation of body and soul. Also have a look at the works of Bruce Lipton, PhD in biology, about the conscious and the subconscious mind.


How To Be Successful: Self-Confidence

Cowgirl Softball Senior Mariah Gearhart © by ShuttrKing|KT

Self-confidence is essential for your success. If you want success you want self-confidence as well, because without it there is no way you will succeed. It is quite common that people confuse self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence is your perception of your ability to succeed, while self-esteem is your evaluation of your own worth. Read to build your self-esteem.

Nobody can predict the future and neither can you. The future has not yet happened. The only thing we have is the past and the near past that most people would call the present. We base our beliefs about the future on past experiences. E.g. if I toss a ball up the air I will experience that the ball slows down and stops climbing and then it will turn around and fall down. If I do it again the same thing happens, but what do you think would happen the third time I toss the ball? – The same, of course, you would say.

Actually you cannot know for sure that the ball will fall down again. But you have experienced it so many times that your belief is that when a ball is tossed up the air it will fall down again. That is a very strong belief that I cannot change even if I tried. This is an interesting point because if you want success you have to believe that you will succeed.

Your belief in success have to be based on your past success experiences. Whatever your goal is then I am pretty sure you have never reached this goal before. This means that you do not have any past experiences of reaching this specific goal. You have to remind yourself of all the successes in the past that you have experienced and figure out how you can use them to reach your goal.

You have to let yourself experience small successes enough to make you just as certain you will succeed again that you are about that the ball will fall down when tossed. This is how you can do it:

  1. Set small and easy goals every day. E.g. yesterday I did 10 push-ups – today I will do 11.
  2. Acknowledge your success when you reach your goal. E.g. say: – I did it! – I’m good at this! Then rest in the feeling for a minute.
  3. Tell the story about your success! PAY ATTENTION – this is important so let me repeat: Tell the story about your success! Tell it to anyone who listens.

How To Exceed Your Limits (part 2 of 3)

Discover your personal mental barriers and question them. Whenever they pop up saying – impossible then you need to ask yourself – why?

E.g. if you and your partner want to go abroad next Christmas then it is likely that you stay home because you cannot leave the rest of the family. What would your parents say? And what about all the presents? You also have to go to church etc. If you really want to get away then start questioning your barriers. Why can you not leave the family? What would really happen? It is a question about consequences and dealing with those consequences. Maybe your mother gets sad that you will not celebrate Christmas at home.

Of course your family would like to celebrate Christmas with you but at least you can deal with that and make them understand why you want to travel instead. Sometimes the consequences are worse than we imagine and sometimes they are not. But it is important to understand the consequences instead of just saying – I cannot do that, or – that is impossible!

When you know the consequences of exceeding your limits, then you can take action and find a way to deal with these consequences. I have practised taekwondo for almost 20 years and in my first years as taekwondo student I look at my instructor doing high site kicks and I thought to myself that I would never be able to do that – I cannot lift my leg that high! After some time I questioned my belief in the impossible. I decided that if my instructor can do it, then so can I.

The consequence of the decision was long hours of patient practice doing the same over and over again while stretching and kicking. I did this four times a week for one year on the side of usual training. 17 years later I can still do a nice high site kick!

In part three I will show how focus, discipline, willpower and feeling of oneness help you.

The Secret About Time

“The only reason for time is so that everything does not happen at once”, said Albert Einstein. I think this quote illustrates that time is a construction; time is something we have invented to be able to understand parts of a complex world. It is essential for us to be able to measure and compare events in order to better understand them. Time is a tool for measurement and comparison.

Immanuel Kant maintains that time does not exist but time is a product of the way we represent things. But things change constantly and nothing is as it was. People change in body and mind throughout life; they are very small in the beginning and then they get bigger and then they turn grey. We split the cycle of life into phases to better describe what happens when we age. But in fact the process cannot be split, as it is an ongoing process.

My point is: Do not worry about time related issues like age or mealtimes. Time does not decide how old you are and time should not dictate when to eat and drink. People often judge my age to be about 8 years less than time claims. Some people look older than they are and others younger. Age is a measurement we use to describe phases in life.

Start using common sense and understand how you feel and act accordingly. If you feel hungry – eat; if you feel thirsty – drink; if you feel younger – be younger; if you feel older – be older.

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