When I started writing today I wanted to present you for the anatomy of habits, but I soon realised that it takes a lot more work to narrow it down to 350 words. I have discovered four different cycles that makes up a habit and each of these consist of 3-4 keywords. Instead I will try to explain the purpose of a habit.
All your habits serve a purpose and I think that purpose is to give you peace of mind and a sense of security. Habits are the building blocks of your life and you need some stability in your life to maintain peace of mind. You also need these building blocks to be flexible; you cannot live life based on the same habits because I believe that humans have a natural desire feel secure and be happy and we will do anything to be secure and happy.
It is not enough for you to be secure and happy because after a while you will start getting used to being secure and happy and you will not enjoy it as much. Eventually you will seek to do some more with your life; you will find a partner and start striving for security and happiness for the two of you. Then after a while you want more and more and more; we call that development and that is why you need habits to be flexible.
A habit in itself is extremely stable and changeless; that is the nature of a habit. A habit is supposed to be stable to serve the purpose of giving you peace of mind. Change does not bring peace. Change will make you feel uncomfortable and insecure; thus, change is the opposite of a habit. Change is supposed to stir up things and bring a bit of chaos. Out of change come new habits that will bring you a greater and renewed feeling of security and peace of mind.
E.g. what kind of toothpaste do you buy? Let me ask you: – why do you buy this specific toothpaste? Why not try another brand for a change? You will not because you would not be sure if it works as well as the one you are used to. Change will bring insecurity.