When I go to the ticket office at the train station the sales assistant always asks me where I want to go. If I do not know where to go then what would the point of travelling be? I could let the sales assistant decide but then I risk ending up somewhere I do not want to be.
The same goes for your life; if you do not know what you want then you end up going nowhere or risk getting stuck at somewhere you do not like. What you need to do is to sit down and think about your goals in life; you need to think about tomorrow, next week and next year and set both short- and long-term goals.
If you are stuck at some mountain top and do not know what you want then try to discover what you are unhappy about. When there is something you do not want in life there is always something that you would like instead. A few examples:
You do not like being single – you want a partner.
You do not have a job – you want a job.
You do not like potatoes – you want pasta.
Watching television makes you unhappy – you want to do sports.
Your goal is what you want instead of what is. Your job is to focus on that goal and find out how to get there. Short-term goals can be reached by making a to-do list and long-term goals can be reached by making subsidiary goals.
I will give you 3 easy steps to get started:
- Discover what you want by using the method I have described.
- Visualise what you want by drawing it on a mental map or use mind mapping.
- Ask: What can I do to reach my goal?
Please comment: How did you find your goals?