How To Put The Time To Good Use

About 18 years ago I lost my watch and I felt awful. Suddenly I did not know what time I was and how can anyone live without knowing the time? Well – today I am happy to say that I feel more joy and less stress without knowing the exact time.

20 years ago I would only wear waterproof watches because then I did not have to take it of when I took a shower. My watch never ever left my wrist. I lost it the one time I did take it of and of course I got a new one after a couple of months. Being without a watch for a couple of months made me think. I noticed that I looked at my watch quite often and sometimes, when people saw that I looked at my watch, they would ask me – What time is it? – The strange thing was … I did not know! I had to look again!

The moment that it occurred to me that I looked at my watch without actually seeing the time I decided never to wear a watch again. I used to be stressed about time and all the things I had to do before a certain time and quite often there were things I did not do because I did not think there would be time enough to do it.

Today I do not have a watch to wear and I do not have visible watches anywhere in my flat. I found that living beings have a very good sense of time and I am usually able to state the time within a ten minutes margin. Instead of relying on a watch telling me what to do I am listening to my mind and body; and that have opened a new world to me where I really get a lot of things done because I am seldom stressed and never have to worry about time.

How do I make appointments on time? – I use my phone to remind me when to leave home. But I only do this for appointments where time matters. E.g. Last week my girlfriend and I had to visit my sister. We promised to be there before dinner but no specific time. We did not know when the bus would leave, so we just went to the bus terminal when we were ready. It was a 15 minutes walk and we had a good chat and fun on our way. We enjoyed the sun and everything around us; we were relaxed and happy. We arrived one minute before departure – it was perfect timing! But I am sure that if we knew this, we would have stressed all the way to the bus terminal and we would have been sweaty and exhausted and all the way we would have worried if we would make it in time.

Time is not all that important; remember that time is something we invented to make life easier, but do not let time rule your life.

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3 Basic Choices In Your Life

Even in the worst situation you can ever imagine you always have a choice. Of course – choosing takes responsibility and trust. Let me show the three choices you always, and I mean ALWAYS have:

  1. Accept
  2. Change
  3. Leave

In all situations in life you will always have these choices to make although the choice can be hard to make. I will elaborate the three basic choices, but first I will set up a simple situation.

Imagine that your keyboard is not working properly; some of the keys get stuck and you have to pull them up after pressing them down. It can be really annoying if you use the computer in your day-to-day work. In this case you can choose to accept that the keys get stuck and just let them do as they please and be happy about it. If you choose acceptance you must be able to abstract from the defect keyboard and focus on other things that are more important to you.

If the keyboard still bothers you then you can choose to change the situation. Most people complain about the situation but you have to take responsibility for the things that make you unhappy. Take action by choosing to change the situation. In the keyboard case you can bring the keyboard to the ICT department and ask them to switch the keyboard to one that is working.

But sometimes your action to change does not work and you will be forced to choose acceptance, at least so it seems. If the ICT department refuses to give you at new keyboard you face a new situation and you have to make a new choice. Are there other actions you can take to make you happy about the situation? If not, then you can choose to leave the situation. You can choose to resign at find a new job in a company where the keyboards work.

These choices can be hard to make since there are always other factors that influence the decisions you have to make. E.g. if you resign your job you will loose good colleagues. That is why choosing also is about prioritising what is more important.

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How To Choose Your Reality

To find the truth we choose to base it on the stories we find most trustworthy. We automatically trust stories that are told by our close friends, because we do not see any reason for them to lie to us. But we tend to ignore that they could be misinformed and tell stories that are at variance with reality; or maybe they just reproduce reality from their own point of view. We also trust stories that the majority are convinced represent reality; e.g. the medias.

It is worth keeping this in back of our mind when we communicate messages to our surroundings. If you tell something to someone you do not know, it is most likely that this person will seek verification from someone he knows better. That is why you have to look and act trustworthy if you want people to adapt your worldview. E.g. you are at a job interview; if what you say and how you dress is inconsistent, then you will not get the job because you do not appear trustworthy.

Another example: Whom do you vote for at elections and how do you justify your choice of candidate? Most people base their choice on the stories told in the medias and a lot of people just choose their candidate because he dresses nice and seem sympathetic.

To be welcome in other people’s worlds you need to reflect a worldview that they can identify with.

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Is James Bond Real?

The stories we tell and the conversations we have all contributes to our common perception of reality. By communicating we synchronise our worldviews and if we do not like the world we see, then we can try to change it by participating in that world. You can change people’s perception of reality by contributing with your stories and by exploring other people’s worldviews.

You have probably formed an opinion about certain actors or presidents in the world, but when it comes down to it: What do you really know? You have only heard the stories told by the medias and you assume that these stories represent the truth. Thereby these stories form your reality and worldview. Would your worldview change if you met these people yourself?

Stories can be interpreted in different ways it all depends on the angle you choose to see. This way the same stories can give different perceptions of what the world looks like. We all know that James Bond is fiction but somehow he seems more real than a random name from the phonebook you have never heard of before. That is because you have heard more stories about James Bond than about John Doe.

Choose your stories and you have chosen your reality.

Tomorrow I will show you how to choose trustworthy stories.

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Use Symbols To Reach Your Goals

You have to communicate what you need in order to get it. If you go to a café and stand in front of the counter, saying nothing, what do you think will happen? Nothing will happen, because you do not say what you want. After a while the barista will ask you what you want and if you stay quiet she will either get impatient or service the next guest.

The result of your visit was: Nothing!

If the barista has worked at the place for a while she will be very good at spotting regular customers and even different types of new customers and she will automatically know what they will order. Whether we like it or not, then we tend to put other people into boxes in our brain. At the café people who drink café latte may have traits that look alike and the barista can spot this, and she will put the customer into the café-latte-box in her brain.

You can make use of this knowledge by communicating what you want, not only in words but also by using symbols. If you want success – then look successful; if you want to be happy – then smile; if you want to write a book – then bring your laptop etc.

People will spot you and the message you communicate and they will help you to reach your goals.

Read more and enjoy your coffee!

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