I’m working on an ebook titled “6 Powerful Mechanisms Behind Personal Change”. This post is an extract of the chapter about positive attitude. Also read [The Nature of Attitude]
Having a positive attitude does not imply that you ignore the problems or negative experiences. It is a choice of focus.
When I took my drivers license back in 1988 my driving instructor said something wise. He said something that has helped me improve my driving as well as my life.
He was giving me a driving lesson at night and as we were driving on a small road with heavy traffic he said to me: – Don’t look at the headlights! Look at the roadside.
At first I thought he was mad. I felt I had to keep an eye on the heavy traffic because I did not want to crash into an oncoming truck. I could not see anything but light, I was blinded by the headlight of the other cars.
My instructor explained to me that when I focus on the headlights I would unknowingly steer towards the headlights. The strong light would attract me. But if I focus on the roadside I would automatically aim for the side of the road.
The point is that I knew about the heavy traffic and the danger of driving too close to the oncoming cars. I also knew that I did not want to crash into an oncoming truck. My driving instructor reminded me of what I wanted; I wanted to drive safely as close to the roadside as possible. By focusing on the roadside I chose a positive focus and got rid of my fear of crashing. We had a safe a pleasant trip.
I have remembered his instructions since that day, because life is just like that driving lesson. Your life will go in the direction that you focus. If you focus on the problems, you will get a life with problems. If you focus on the positive then you will get a life full of positive experiences.
Choosing a positive focus is about accepting and learning from negative experiences and find out what you want in life and put focus on that instead.
Do you want a life full of problems?
Do you want a life full of positive experiences?