Where Is My Life Manual?

Me Day 3.276 © Erik Back 2012

Thinking about life sometimes gives me a headache. Actually I have one right now. I’m so puzzled and frustrated about life right now and it is giving my brain a work overload.

Life never stands still, it is in constant flux and all I can do is try to keep up. Like Eric Hoffer said: In times of change learners inherit the earth; while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.

I like change but right now life is changing so fast that I just want to look up in my life manual to see what is going on and when it will slow down again.

Next week my girlfriend is no longer my girlfriend and I will have to get used to call her my wife while watching her grow to the size of a whale. She’s pregnant and it is fantastic. Five months already and in September my life as it is now will be a long forgotten past.

It’s interesting that we have books that describe the development of every single day of the embryo and foetus. Every stage is described in amazing details. It is fascinating to read about but it is also thought provoking how predictable the development is.

Humans follow a development pattern and we go through certain stages of life, but for some reason life is kept a secret for us as soon as we grow up to become adults.

I’m still looking for the book that describes day number 15.245 in an adult males life.

Are we predictable?

I don’t want to be 15 years or 20 years again. I have been on that stage of life and every time I meet people of a certain age I can recognise the characteristics of the way they think, act and perceive the world.

They seem to have the same struggles in their physical and mental development and I catch myself thinking: You’ll understand when you get older.

I hated when grown-ups told me that.

We are all unique but we seem to go through life in very predictable stages and yet these stages come as a surprise to us.

Am I experiencing the same emotions and perplexity that every other man is experiencing at day 15.245?

We are writing tons of books on self-development and we love them. But can we influence our own development or is it just a naïve stage we are going through? When I reach day 30.356, will I say: Oh, you’ll understand when you get older?

Is self-development just a predictable stage of life?

Chapter 23: Day 15.245

Today the male will be at a stage of bewilderment and hair will start growing on his back.

Do we really need a life manual if our nature is to believe that we can change development? At the age of 7.280 days I wouldn’t be much concerned about the hair that pops up on day 15.245. If I read such a manual at the age of 7.280 I wouldn’t believe it.

Are we so convinced about life at a certain stage of life that we refuse to see the pattern we follow until we pass that stage?

Even though I have been through recognisable stages of life I still believe I can be different than the rest of the male population at the age of 17.324 days.

I will learn and grow wiser.

Meanwhile I will accept and continue my stage of life-development and use my passion of writing to share my experience with you.

If you are older than 15.245 days you will probably say: You’ll understand when you get older; and if you haven’t reached day 15.245 yet you will read, learn and believe you can change the pattern.

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