The theme for the past two weeks has been self-confidence and today I have made a list of all the articles I wrote about this. Each item on the list below is linked to the corresponding article. If you want to build your self-esteem instead, then take a look at my series about self-esteem.
- Radiate confidence. Specific actions you can take to improve your self-confidence instantly. Mind that radiating self-confidence does not mean that you are self-confident but people will perceive you as such. It is a way to help you feel more confident.
- Accomplish something. Sitting around thinking only makes things worse; over analysing will create fear and you will miss all the action; you will also miss the opportunity to accomplish something.
- Achieve mastery. How is it possible for a person with low self-confidence to achieve mastery? I can see the contradiction because lack of self-confidence is the belief that you do not have the abilities to achieve mastery.
- Define yourself. Do not let an event or other people define who you are! If I tell you to give me a list of ten words that describe you best, would you be able to make that list?
- Confront your fears. Nothing is more stimulating for your self-confidence than accomplishing something you dread. E.g. go parachuting; confronting a tiger; getting stuck in quicksand or jumping a cleft.
- Exercise. Doing sports and exercise indirectly improves your self-confidence because being physical active has a wide range of advantages: It keeps you both mental and physical fit.
- Recall past successes. A bad experience leaves a greater impression than does a good experience. As a rule of thumb you need 10 good experiences to cancel out the impression of a bad experience.
- Keep cool. I am cool! I can say that for sure and so should you. I was not able to say so 15 years ago but today I can. I have had experiences where I needed to keep cool.
- Stop Worrying. Worry is a negative way of thinking that will bring you to a dead end. There are two kinds of worries and that some people prefer to distinguish the two by calling one for worries and the other for concerns.
- Be specific. You can have high self-confidence in one area but low in another; you have to be specific about the area of life you are working on an improved self-confidence.
- You get what you ask for. Have you noticed what happens when you walk into a shop? A sales assistant will greet you and ask if you need help finding what you need.
- Positive language. I know I have said it many times and I will continue repeating because it is very important: You need to have a positive focus
- Visualise. You have probably experienced the feeling of picturing yourself in a desired situation. It is almost is if you were there.