To get what you want you need other people to give it to you. Do not think you can do everything yourself because if you do, then you will never get the acknowledgement of success. You need people to help you, to teach you, to support you, to acknowledge you and to work for you. In other words, you need people to give in order to receive.
But why would people want to give anything to you? Would you like to give to people you do not know? – No, of course not! When you feel like giving it is because you have a relation to the person you want to give something. You feel something for this person. Thus, you have to make people want to give you what you need.
That is why networking is important. You need to make relations to people and better yet, you need to connect these relations. Listen to people around you and you will discover what resources they have; discover what their needs are and give it to them and interact in social activities where you can tell your positive stories and listen to other people’s stories.
If you are currently without a network then start working on getting one. Maybe you want to consult my series about self-esteem first. Your network is just waiting for you to take action and the first place to start is your family. Listen to them and find out whom they know and what those people do. Maybe your sister has a good friend that needs something you have; give it to this friend and she will remember you and recommend you to other people.
Building a strong network is an ongoing process and it is never too late to start. This is how you get started:
- Listen to people.
- Give value to your network. Sometimes the most valuable you can give is you.
- Connect people. Be the one to recommend your friends to other friends.
Trust me, if you do this long enough, then people will start listening to you, and you will tell the positive stories about your projects and goals and successes and they will offer value. When your network wants to give, then be ready to receive! Receiving is just as important as giving.
If you would like to know more about success and giving, then I will recommend reading “Go-Giver” by Bob Burg and David Mann.