What do you find more stimulating, negative or positive stories? Personally I enjoy listening to positive stories. They inspire me and motivate me. Enthusiastic people that tell about their experiences are always interesting to listen to. The positive stories you tell will make you look successful. People will perceive you as successful.
When you take a positive focus it does not mean that you neglect the negative things in life. You will make mistakes and a lot of what you do will fail, but instead of whimpering about your bad experiences you have to evaluate the process and figure out what you can learn and do better. Then tell the story about what you will do next and how you expect the outcome will be.
To be successful you need other people to acknowledge what you do. If you sell something you need people to buy; if you are an actor you need people to watch. I.e. you need people to demand what you offer. Who would you feel attracted to? Who would you want to buy from? Who would you want to spend time with? – Negative people? No, you would want to associate with people with a positive attitude!
If you have a negative experience then there is always another experience you would rather have had. This means that for every negative situation, you have a wish for something better. You have to discover what that is and put your focus on what you want instead of what you do not like. E.g. if you have an ugly pink armchair that you are constantly complaining about, then all you will end up with is a pink armchair you are unhappy about. If you find out that you really want a Chesterfield chair then convey this message instead.
I will give you a few tips that will guarantee you a more positive attitude and make you feel more successful instantly:
- Tell positive stories about your experiences.
- Avoid participating in negative discussions. If you do, then listen and be the one to take a positive angle.
- Use positive wording. E.g. avoid negations like no, not, impossible, have not, cannot, will not etc.