I always play to win, but the game is more important to me than winning. I really enjoy games of all kinds; the strategies I can make; the memorisation of cards and the prediction of next move etc. I also enjoy the physical efforts of sport; the teamwork; feeling the oneness of a team that works well; I love the feeling of giving myself 100 %.
I like winning but I have lost hundreds of games and competitions that I have enjoyed. When I play I have fun in the process; I find motivation in the activity itself and not in winning. The result is that I win quite often and I feel I get better all the time. This kind of motivation is called intrinsic motivation and that is the kind of motivation that will build your self-esteem. Competing other people to win will only lead to failure and lower self-esteem. You have to keep focus on the process and learn from the process. Winning or loosing is just a product of the process.
Five things that motivate:
- Be positive. Take a positive attitude to everything you do. No matter what you are doing then find the positive aspects and focus on what you like about it.
- Seek inspiration. Listen to other people, go to seminars, read books, read articles, search the Internet, watch YouTube and read blogs.
- Break routines. Motivation’s worst enemy is routines. Break your routines and find new inspirational ways to do things. Take risks and see what happens. Get out of your comfort zone and explore new things.
- Exercise. You need to strengthen your body and keep a good health. Exercising gives energy; you produce endorphins that make you happy and it will help you keep a sense of perspective.
- Set goals. Discover what you want and set goals. This will give you a reason to take action and motivation requires a reason.
Task no. 11: Read the above 5 items again and take action!