How To Build Your Self-Esteem: Challenge Fear

Conquer Your Fear © by Lel4nd

In the wake of low self-esteem comes fear and anxiety. To improve your self-esteem you have to challenge your fears. Do scary stuff that makes you feel in control.

I have always had fear of heights. Standing on the two first steps of a ladder was enough for me to feel dizzy; it was even problematic for me to stand on a chair. I beat the fear by forcing myself to challenge heights. I started slow to get used to the heights. If I climbed a tree I would keep going until I felt the fear in my stomach and then I climbed one step further and froze on the spot. My heart was beating in my throat and I almost peed my pants. I would sit there waiting and waiting and waiting. I kept waiting until I got used to the situation and my heartbeat got normal. I repeated this process again and again and again.

You can face fear in different ways:

  1. Face the fears you know. Face the things you know you are scared of and do it slowly like I climbed the tree. This way you push your limits instead of transcending them.
  2. Do dangerous things. Do activities that you do not face in your everyday life. E.g. climb a mountain site; abseil a house; go parachuting; dive with piranhas etc.

This way you will learn to love fear and if you love fear you will be comfortable with fear.

What I love about fear is the rush I get. The feeling is hard to describe but it makes me feel invincible and high. The body produce stress hormones that make you feel excited and after doing something dangerous you feel better than ever.

Task no. 3: Face you fear and feel your heart beat. Stay in that feeling until it settles down again. The hardest thing is to take the step into the unknown but the reward is many times worth it. Here are a few techniques you can use when you face your fears:

  1. Yell at them.
  2. Laugh at them.
  3. Scare them away.
  4. Ridicule them

To be in control you have to choose the fears to face, do not wait for them to choose you!

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